I Got Married to A Bisexual

I Got married To a Bisexual; What Should I do?

My name is Akinlami, I’m heartbroken, disappointed and confused.I’m losing my mind, I might do something crazy with the way I’m feeling right now; so I need your advice. I write from Canada.I’m from Iseyin in Oyo state, Nigeria, I moved with my family to Canada twelve years ago.Cynthia and I got married in 1994.Still remember the excitement and the joy of getting married to a woman I cherished so much, for over six years of friendship and courtship.My family moved to Canada in the year 2004 and everything went fine at least to the best of my knowledge.We registered the kids in a new school I got a job in an engineering firm as an operation and maintenance superintendent. Cynthia got a job in a mall as a store associate. We have two kids, Enerst and David.Six years after we moved to Canada, my wife exhibited strange behaviours that is not Africa like.She raises her voice at me on every discussion; drinks alcohol and smoked.This is surprising because my wife is a woman any African man will want as a wife.She is industrious, hard working, domestic, God fearing and respectful before we left Nigeria. But, the lady living with me six years after we got to Canada is different.Divorce was not an option for me, as I always remember the oath we took when we got married.I was raised in a Christian home where my parents never got separated. This is the reason I stayed in the marriage against the strange behaviours of my wife.The situation continues to grow worse, my wife starved me of sex.Anytime I come close to her, it was one excuse or the other. This was the point I thought she was seeing someone else.Little did I know that I was yet to get the shock of my life.I hired a private detective to trail my wife.After a few weeks, the detective  came back and said: “With all due respect, sir the reason your wife has refused to have sex with you is because she is a lesbian.”I thought he was joking, not until he showed me pictures of my wife with one of her popular friends Ian Anderson practicing lesbianism.This is a shock because this was not the Cynthia I married before leaving Nigeria.This made me move back to Nigeria.My boys are grown; I have been away from their mother for the past five years.What should I do; please advise me is that enough reason to marry again?

Answer

Confront her.And see her reaction.Find out the genesis of her lesbianism try to help her get a solution.This habit could be as a result of wrong influence. Separate her from the influence.You need to try every possible  way you can help her stop that act. But, if it is not working, then you can consider a divorce.Also by law,  your marriage is classified as “a marriage by fraud”. Your wife knew she had a fundamental sexual issue, but never revealed it.This is a ground to divorce her and marry again.