In the last post considering the topic of betrayal, a lot has been said on dealing with betrayals that feel like they’re straight from hell. Read here: Betrayal from Hell (Part 1)  if you missed that. Here are more ways to deal with betrayal.

Expose the Lies

The enemy always works best under the cover of darkness. He doesn’t want his lies to be exposed. The Bible tells us offenses are to be brought directly to the person involved (Matt. 18:15).

There really is no gray area here. If we are upset with another person and cannot get it resolved in prayer, then we must have honest communication in love. The end result can actually be a stronger relationship. Unsaid things and unresolved wounds become the platform for a betrayal.

True reconciliation begins when an offense is exposed privately and brought to the light. This is the first step toward healing—not keeping it as a whisper in the dark or gossiping about the offense to everyone but the person who offended us. Hidden in darkness, lies grow into swelling walls of division and strife.

Character Assassination

The spirit of accusation will manifest through character assassination. The devil loves to beat up and malign God’s people. He wants to use our lips to give voice to his whispers. These lies are not rooted in any form of truth. The enemy operates in secret and under cover in the darkness.

These lies plant false seeds with a twofold mission:

1.To blanket individuals with word curses that restrict them and create heaviness.

2. To create false wounds, perceptions and concepts to separate people from ordained relationships, ordained places and ordained assignments.

The purpose of these lies is to break up divine alignments.

The way to gain victory over the enemy’s ploys is to engage in brave communication. Sometimes we have to pray for the spirit of wisdom to handle the matter with the right attitude. Making sure our relationships are in order and no offenses are festering is important. Romans 12:18 says, “If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men.”

And in the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus said,

“Therefore if you are presenting your offering at the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your offering there before the altar and go; first be reconciled to your brother, and then come and present your offering” (Matt. 5:23-24).

And while dealing with offenses promptly and appropriately is important in all relationships, relationships that hold massive potential are that much more worthy of investment. They are worthy of time, labor and prayer.

When we fail to bring our concerns to someone, we leave a door open for the enemy to plant false accusations in our minds, which can lead to betrayal and the destruction of both our relationships and the Lord’s purposes for those relationships. Simple communication can often be the only tool needed to thwart the enemy’s plans.

Solid relationships and families

Recognizing the importance of kingdom relationships and the necessity of stewarding them well is critical. The kingdom expands best through solid relationships and families. Real ministry begins with the kingdom family. Families disagree and have challenges, but they do not break apart. They work through those things. This is a vital truth that many fail to apply.

Maturity, along with strong ethics and proper understanding of boundaries, empowers success in these areas. Timothy served alongside Paul, his spiritual father. He saw Paul in both good and bad times. He saw him in times of struggle as well as times of victory. He faced intense spiritual battles with him. This happens when we connect to certain leaders and gifts. We will face challenges and battles, but the power of God will see us through if we remain committed.

Timothy did not change his mind. He did not leave Paul to follow the next rising trend or apostolic voice. He remained exactly where God placed him; he remained connected to the person God placed him with. He realized the value of the relationship. He had a healthy perspective that allowed him to go the distance (Ephesians 4:7-13).

Emotional and spiritual  pruning

God uses kingdom relationships to bring emotional and spiritual pruning. Pruning stimulates root growth, producing bigger, more and better-quality fruit. Relationships pinpoint areas that need growth. They reveal character flaws and issues.

This is a part of God’s great mystery. God invested Himself in each one of us. He linked the five-fold ministry together and placed different perspectives, gifts and anointings in each link. Separated, each is only a part, but together they make the whole. He wove us all together as a masterful tapestry.

The Father prunes us, removing parts that are impeding our fruit-bearing potential. Pruning stings and feels painful, but it is an answer to our prayers. It is God revealing Himself to us as He challenges our hearts to embrace His process. This not only qualifies us to steward His mandate for our lives but also strengthens us to see the value of diversity in our relationships.

We are dependent upon each other for God’s global plan. We may create friction with our different perspectives and gifts, but the friction makes us individually stronger and corporately sharper (Prov. 27:17). Together we can achieve great and mighty things!

It is important that we place value on one another. Someone who helps but doesn’t have a prophetic flow is just as important as the one who moves continually in dreams and visions. When they come together, there is power and service. This is the heart of the Father—to activate and send each believer into his or her destiny.

Creating a value system for relationships, diversity and order will slam the door shut on demons of betrayal. It will also cause you to see the fullness of the beauty of the body of Christ; each part contains an attribute of Jesus. When they are brought together, many streams make one rushing river of love and power.

Source: Ryan LeStrange